Friday, November 23, 2018

How to find your (natural) Slave for the BDSM Lifestyle.

Stop searching

First of all stop searching for "your" slave. You will always have a biased view of how this slave should be and the risk that you will miss him because of your biased view.
I know this is easy to say but try to enjoy your time as Master without a slave.
Meet slaves with no ulterior motives and no preconceptions, try stuff you are interested and learn more about dominating the different kind of slaves.

Start with sessions and build it up: step by step at the time

The next step is that you should rethink your idea of finding a "24/7 slave"! To have a natural slave who lives the BDSM lifestyle is the Champions League! You will NEVER start in the champions league! First you start with meeting the slave in a session. When it was great you meet him on a regularly base. You create a boundary with him and earns his trust and hopefully his affection/love! Furthermore you get to know his mindset about BDSM, what drives him to be a slave and if this is is deep inside him or only a horny sex fantasy.

I have the thesis that a lot of natural slaves do not know that they have the potential to live the BDSM lifestyle. Moreover they are scared about the idea of living the BDSM lifestyle and this is a healthy attitude which protects them! The decision to become a real slave who lives the BDSM Lifestyle has to come from the slave. Without any rush and horniness! The greatest gift a slave can give you is his freedom but he has to give it to you from his own will! Because he wants to and he feels that this is the right decision for him.

To become a real slave who lives the BDSM lifestyle is a process! The most wonderful thing of having a slave is to see and have these progresses! It is the way you are going with your slave, seeing these progresses, which makes it so wonderful. These steps also intense the boundary between you and your slave. They are necessary and you have to earn these steps.
It's about the way, not the goal you set up.

So after meeting a slave on a regularly base you beginn slowly to expand the session. From a few hours to some hours. When this went well I am sure he will serve you for 1-2 day. By expending the time with your slave you will notice that you have to carry out the session differently. A 1-2 hours session is different than a 5-6 hours session and different like 1-2 days or a week. You will learn how to handle the difference. You will perhaps add or remove rules or also have a system for him. You have to find that out on your own. Every Master and every slave is different and it has to fit and work for both of you. Yes the slave has to submit to his Master and good Master looks after his slave and will cause no psychological/physiologic harm/damage. When the slave is all in all happy with his position and to serve his master you can go a step further. Make small steps and enjoy the way you are going.

Communicate

Communication is the keyword! Talk and discuss the way you enslave him. Perhaps ask his also about his opinion! Let him talk about his feelings and his thought. This is also part of your job as a good Master. A part which helps you intense the boundary. I also do that. I always listen to what my slave says and I hear him out. But I make the decisions and he has to accepts them.

With all the information given in this post, here an advice to you: Never start a conversation with "I am searching for a 24/7 slave!" NEVER. Also do not mentioned it in any profile text at all. You will scare any real natural slave away. It also scares me when I read these sentence. No slave will come to a stranger and hand him his freedom over. This is insane!
After having a slave on a regular base you can start a discussion and let him know that the idea of having an own slave arouses you. But do not let your or his horniness lead the conversation! It is about reality not about your sex fantasy!

Here the Article for how to find a Master .

If you have any question or comments about this post let me know in the comment below.

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