BDSM and romance

When your Master is also your partner and husband you might wonder if there is space for romance in a BDSM-relationship.

Yes there is! And I think romance is no contrast to a BDSM-relationship. Of course every couple has to decide for themselves if and how much romance they want and need. But I can say that my Master and I enjoy those romantic moments. Other BDSM couples we know, wo also live a very strict BDSM-life, have their moments of romance too. Of course romance is totally different for everybody. For me it means showing affection, setting small actions to show how much you care about your partner and taking time for each other where you only celebrate your relationship.

Consent & BDSM

This time I decided to write about consent in BDSM and how this matches up. Because BDSM & consent could look like that it would be contrary but it is not! So first of all: Yes, there is a consent between a Master and his slave and the consent is needed! It is not like that someone is sitting at home and from nowhere a Master/Mistress is appearing and is "enslaving" a guy (or woman) - who perhaps never heard about BDSM.

It starts with someone feeling and persuing a desire - the desire to dominate or serve. Perhaps this person will find the courage to satisfy his desire and explores it. Therefore he tries to connect on social media like recon, BDSM-Bars and so on. So the first time you find a glimps of consent in BDSM is in the action you take to find your inner needs and by wanting them satisfied! A Master wants to dominate and a slave wants to serve and with the first "session" you start to build up the trust and security which could perhaps lead to the desire of deepen BDSM and perhaps the desire to live the BDSM lifestyle.

A thank you to the Doms on twitter!

Some weeks ago I thanked the slaves and subs who are on twitter, who share their story and who are in contact with me. I explained why it is important for me to be in contact with other slaves. 

But of course I am also very thankful to the Doms on twitter and so I want to dedicate this post to you Sirs!

As a natural submissive I was always shy to approach Doms, because I think they are so much above me in the natural hierarchy that I should not disturb them by contacting them. This has not changed since I am owned. It is still very rare that I contact Doms on twitter. On the one hand of course because I am an owned slave, but I still think of myself as a natural submissive who should not disturb natural Alphas. I follow a lot of Doms on twitter and I am thankful for the stories, picture and thoughts they share!

Anal penetration on slaves

I use my slave for various chores and tasks. Living the BDSM lifestyle is more then fucking a slave. It is for some - or perhaps only for a few - of us a attitude to life. The aesthetic of the slavebody while taking the ordered/trained pose. Getting served a drink or receiving the full trust of the slave when playing with his slavebody for my pleasure. The slavebody - this brings me to my topic of today: Anal penetration on slaves.