Feelings, empathy and BDSM

Feelings are for me an essential and important part in BDSM and for the BDSM-lifestyle! I love to be responsable for a slave, using his slavebody and train him to get better in serving. It is my passion to dominate slaves - which I believe I was born with. Receiving the fullest trust and devotion from an inferior is the most precious good you can receive in my point of view! It gives me joy to train and see progress in forming a slave. Therefore (positive) "feelings" are a an essential part for a healty BDSM-relationship.

 

What I write next could sound strange but lets dig deeper into it: A natural Master needs in my opinion a very strong and deep emotional intelligence! I own and train a slave. I need to "understand" the feelings and emotions to lead and be in charge of the situation. I need it to take over the reins and to lead the slave into servitude I have to read the signals. Furthermore it is my responsibility to keep a/my slave mentaly and physiological safe as well as not overstepping bounderies which would destroy the trust of the slave. I earned the trust and this is - together with the slavebody - the highest good a Master ever can receive from a slave! Keep in mind: D/s relationship is a symbiosis. An unequal relationship with the desire to dominate an inferior or to serve a superior bound by trust.

Does that mean I feel "sorry" for the slave when punishing him with the crop or using his slavebody for my pleasure? As example when dropping hot wax on his slaveballs where he perhaps gasps and screams. No absolutely not! Does it mean I understand his needs to serve or be owned by a Master. No...
As a Master with the desire of owning/dominating a slave I can not understand the desire of a slave and I am sure it is the same the other way around. But I take it and satisfy my desire to own/dominate a slave and here lays exatly the simbiosis of the D/s- relationship!

But here comes the point: If I recognize in his behaviours, body language, ect. the slave would go in a direction like panic or he reaches a certain level of fear I have to take care and react! I will then slow down or take other actions. It shows also a potential spot where I have to train the slave. When I train my slave in areas in which he has respect or he fears something, I have to guide him safely through and reinforce him positively by going through it. These are all emotions which you have to read and handle and if you handle it correctly it will deepen the bond between a Master and his slave and furthermore it will deepen servitude.

This is exactly what fascinates me about BDSM. To "read" the slave, using him as it pleases me and deepen his being as a slave.

 

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