I am now speaking about my view and style to live the BDSM-lifestyle and how I see punishment.
Their are several occasions on which my slave gets punished and the first occassion of punishment in the BDSM-lifestyle is for me the "formal punishments".
Here is an example what a "formal punishment" is: My slave has a lot of chores which I clearly track. Because of daily life - stress in work, a time period with a lot of appointments etc. - it can happen that he decides to do a chore not in the quality required or perhaps to "skip" a small chore. The consequence is that he receives more or less punitive points on his slave-accounts (more about it: here). I am a strict and consequent Master therefore it is clear that something like "not doing a chore" or "not doing it in the quality needed" leads to punishment - also when I do understand the circumstances and thoughts of my slave. Therefore I am not "mad" at him. No feelings are hurt and I am not disappointed. But he had his chores and if they are not done the consequent is punishment! Thats the slavelife.
Mostly these formal punishment results in using the riding crop or book some punitive points into his slave-account.
Another occassion where my slave get spunished are small mistakes. Taking a wrong position, as example when being on all four not having his legs parrallel to each other, not recognizing that my drink is empty and therefore a refill is needed or feeling his teeth when serving my Mastercock and so on. My slave has a lot of rules and sometimes small mistake happens. These mistake get punished and punishment is a tool to train my slave in these small mistakes.
The third occassion are mistakes. Mistakes where he forgot an order or did not stick to the rules or protocol. As example when he would cum without permission, while I am edging him. Mostly my slave is disappointed by himself when these mistakes happen and he understands that he receives a proper punishment.
The last occassion is "punishment" for my enjoyment. Or lets call it "discipline" Because sometime I want to show him who is in charge and therefore I enjoy his body with some wax, clamps etc.
Therefore he serves me by suffering but mostly when doing that I also depit him some punishment points.
Therefore he serves me by suffering but mostly when doing that I also depit him some punishment points.
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Deep within me there is a a strong urge to be a slave. I have embraced the role of a submissive but need to explore further. What frightens me is the thought of being physically punished. Whilst I understand the logic of punishment in the situations you explain it is a barrier for me that is very hard to overcome.
ReplyDeleteI understand now. Thanks you for clarifying it. I am seriously considering entering a BDSM relationship and even though I can see areas where SIR is right to take me to task, especially when he starts training me, other things he has talked about...I'm thinking WTF?? So...I have to negotiate more on the contract. I am a big one on justice and have a problem with things I have no control over going wrong, (Car breaks down, forced to work late, family emergency), and I am brought to task. That is emphatically, not justice or just. IMO of course.
ReplyDeleteIt is my first BDSM relationship btw. Hence my confusion of certain aspects I am not familiar with.
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