As I already wrote in a previous post BDSM has to evolve. You start small and explore who you are and in what direction you want to go. A BDSM-relationship has to be a symbiosis to be healthy. There are many factors which could need adaption in the rules or structures of a BDSM-relationship. These could be external factors like job, health or perhaps family matters. On the other hand there are the internal factors and these internal factors are the important part which drives the BDSM-relation. It is the mindset and emotions like trust or the sense of belonging and the feeling that you can be the person who you really are and want to become.
I have been owning my slave now for more than a decate and I adapted the rules and structure regurlarly. If I saw he deepened his submissvness and was ready to go further I adapted the rules and/or structures. If I saw I went to far with something and the condition were not favorable I backed off a little.
My slave slowly went deeper in his submissvnes. He fully accepted that orgasm are for Superiors only. His mindset changed and therefore orgasm have now a other value for him then in the past. So I had to adapt the structure I made. The bonussystem was build around orgasms he could receive. So after accepting that orgasms are for Superiors and free man only I had to adapt the system. Otherwise the "system" would not make sense any more. So I decided that he has to use his bonus-points to earn slave privileges. Like sleeping in the bed or using his mobile phone unrestricted. He immidiately accepted it and it makes sense for him. These are the moments where I am really proud of him. Proud that he goes the way of slavery further.
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