First of all we have to destinguish between "mood" and "lifestyle". Me and my slave choose to live the BDSM lifestyle because it fullfils us - it makes us happy, it satisfies our inner needs. It is our desire to live that way. If you have the desire of owning a pet you choose to live the "dog-owner" lifestyle - going out with the dog, train him, enjoy time with the dog and so on. You did not decide because you were in the "mood" for it, you choose it because it was your inner need which you wanted to satisfied. The same appears with our BDSM-lifestyle. It is our way of life and a "mood" will not change that. Yes I can have a bad day - perhaps having a cold and I sometimes not in the mood to spank/fuck/torture my slave because of that. But I am not spanking/fucking/torturing my slave twentyfour hours seven days a week. When I have a bad day or having a cold all rules still apply for my slave. He is still not allowed to use the furniture or to wear clothes. These kind of stuff still remains. Also when I am in a bad mood it still feels wrong for me to see my slave in clothes or seeing him using furniture. Alone the thought feels wrong to me. This has nothing to do with mood. If I see that my slave made a mistake, he gets punished. My mood does not matter. Yes it can be that I am not in the mood to fuck my slave or that I want a relaxing evening in normal protocol. But I can not surpress my Masterbeing and "mood" will not change that.
The BDSM-lifestyle is (for me!) a lifestyle. For others it is a nice way to spice up sex and that's it. Only to be clear: There is no right and wrong "way" of BDSM as long as both parts agree to it.
For me it does not matter if I have a good or a bad day. Yes I am not always in the mood for sex but BDSM is so much, MUCH more for us then "sex". Yes if someone (only) focuse on the "sexual part" of BDSM you can say I am not in the mood.
If my slave is at home he has to serve me - bring me drinks, cook meals, make the household. Of course it could be that he is not the mood of doing the household but he has to! He knows his place and he choose to become my slave with all consequences and to be honest: My slave can communicate with me. If he has a really bad day and would need first some time to come down I give him permission to surf first around, use social media before he has to do his chores. But as I recognised: Serving me and doing his slave duties brings him down and lets him forget the bad day.
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