In a previous blogpost my slave mentioned that he finds joy in serving Superiors. Therefore, I wanted to raise awareness about the topic of “healthy” serving and a healthy D/s relationship. I mentioned in many of my blogpost that BDSM – especially the BDSM-lifestyle - is a symbiosis and therefore it has to be kept on a healthy level. But what is healthy and what is toxic?
In a healthy D/s relationship both parts are interested in the well-being of the counterpart. As they are connected and relate to each other. The first step of a healthy BDSM-relationship is that the Master/slave knows - or finds out - what their true nature is and what kind of needs they have. Of course, in a classical way the Master is a taker (takes the slave-body, the slave-service, the slave-sexuality etc.) and the slave is a giver. Therefore the slave has to have the urge to serve and to find joy in it. Otherwise, it would not be natural and therefore not healthy. Keep in mind that the Master is also a giver. He “gives” his dominance, his trust, his guidance, his "rules" and security to the slave – which the slave seeks for and the slave is therefore the taker. So first of all – and this is my opinion – as long as the nature of the person matches the BDSM-relationship it is on a healthy foundation.
Keep in mind that sometimes the nature of a Master/slave can be hidden/unknown and you have to be carefully bringing it to the surface.
Secondly it is important that the Master - as well as the slave – seek joy in what they are doing (because it is in their nature). Of course, a slave has to do and endure things he dislikes/hates. It is part of his being as a slave to “take”/do things he does not want, so he can give joy or show his ownership to the Master. But here comes the point: These moments should not outweigh! They are signs of clear hierarchy.
Another important point for healthy "BDSM" is in general that you start at the beginning. When you want to become an athlete you also start small and slowly get better through training. You will evolve with the training/experiences and that is important for your mental and physical health. The same occurs for BDSM.
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Thank you to both Master and slave for their contributions to this blog and the insights into their beautiful lifestyle. Although late to discovering the BDSM lifestyle I am hopeful that I will find a Master to teach me to be a humble and dutiful slave.
ReplyDeleteYou're always so wise, Sir.
ReplyDeleteIt's so good to read a clever Master who is able to explain the reality and the psychology of a Master/slave relationship, Sir. It is both reassuring and motivating, Sir.
Thank You very much, Sir.