Jealousy in a D/s relationship? - Slaves article

Can there be jealousy in a D/s relationship? And if so - is it any different from any non D/s relationship? 

First of all I think every couple experiences jealousy totally differently, wheter you are gay/straight and vanilla/kinky. So I can only talk about how I experience it and see it with others.

The rules are clear: Master is free in His sex and "play"-life, His slave is not. So Sir has no reason to ask me or even tell me when He fucks or uses another sub. We are both totally clear about that! On the other hand I have no say in my sex or "play"-life, it is totally controlled by Master.

The joy of being a slave during winter

I honestly love winter time. I don't need winter every day for 365 days a year. But I really enjoy those few months we get winter a year. There are several reasons for that. First of all because it is cold outside and it gets dark early Master prefers to stay home more often than in summer. That means a lot more time for His slave to worship Him! Of course I worship and serve Master every day. But in winter I get to worship/lick Sir more often than in summer. 

What happens when the slave is not in the "head space"?

One of our followers on Telegram asked us recently what happens if the slave was not in the submissive head space. First all of this happens very rarely. I consider myself as a natural born slave and my Master as a natural born Superior, so I am not in certain head spaces - I am just living my submissive live. Serving my Master is natural to me. But of course there are times when serving is harder, because of hard weeks at work, private problems, health reasons etc.

What I understand with financial domination

I have to be honest. It is a delicate topic but I want to give it a try - also because you wanted an article about my thoughts about Findom or my thoughts about the fincancially aspect in the BDSM Lifestyle:
I understand with financial domination (findom) something else then the most people. Perhaps I should call it differently in my opinion like "economical domination"? Furtheremore there is a huge crux with financial domination which occurs with domination/ownership and exploitation!
How can you dominate or own a slave financialy without "exploiting" the slave. Perhaps I should call it: How can you dominate a slave financially in an ethical way?
Therefore this is a perfect topic for a blogpost.

Domestic service - as non permament slave

One of our followers on telegram asked me to write more about "domestice service" and I am happy to apply. First of all domestic service is one of the greatest way on how to serve as submissve in my opinion. It is far from being sexual, but it constantly needs work and attention. Wheter you are a slave that only meets a Master occassionally or that you live with your Master, you can always serve domestic.

Happy Locktober!

As you know, I don't receive full orgasms any more and I am locked most of the time. So one could ask, what Locktober means to me? Well physically not that much changes. I am locked and I don't get to cum. Mentally I don't have the thought that I have to make it to the end of October to receive an orgasm, because I won't get any.

But still Locktober is very important to me. It is so great to hear all the different thoughts of Doms and subs on chastity, highlighting all the different aspects of it. Seeing each and every day on social media a ton of locked dicks of subs. Surprisingly more and more Doms are locking themselves up too! Being chaste seems to bring joy for many. It is great hearing how people are happy, when they got past another day, hearing the encouraging words of others when someone struggels. 

Tips about finding your Master/slave

I often get the question "What can I do to find a Master/slave?". I think it is time that I write my thoughts down. One thing in particular has to be clear: It needs your effort and of course luck.

Being in the dark about meetings

As you might have guessed: Master loves being in control and showing me that He is in control. One way He loves to show me that is by leaving me in darkness about meetings. Meetings with BDSM context to be precise. We share an online calender and I am ordered to keep it up to date always. So whenever I have to work late, there is an event or there is a vanilla meeting I have to write in the calender. So that Master knows which days and weekends are free for Him to plan. As soon as He has planned a BDSM meeting Sir marks the day in our shared calender as booked. So I know that I can't plan other events there. 

Serving Master D. for a Weekend (guest post)

It was a great and intense weekend of submitting and serving. I was introduced to the bdsm-lifestyle.

After a long ride I finally arrived at Master D.`s place. I had to get undressed, place ankle and wrist restraints with padlocks and was then welcomed by Master D. with a temporary slave chain collar. He also took my phone and valuables as I was not allowed to have them as long as He would allow it. I was surprisingly calm with that as I thought about that before how I would feel. But it showed my place even more and is an important aspect of power exchange in my opinion.

Routines in the BDSM Lifestyle

Rules, structure and routines are essential when it comes to handling slaves. To condition your slave you need time, effort and passion. On the other hand you need to be strict but also understanding. 

being a human urinal for guests

Recently Master had a guest Master invited. As usually I only knew someone was coming. But I never know if it would be a Dom or a sub and if I knew this person or not. It was one of the few true Doms that are living roughly close to use. We only had met this Sir recently and I was genuinly happy to see him again but thought a the same time: "Fuck, it is the sadist!" 

Why I switched to Telegram Channel

Next week we will post again regulary blogposts. I decided to release this blogpost one week before we dive into BDSM topics again. I decided to write the article about the reason I switched my main channel from Twitter to Telegram. One of the reason is how Twitter is acting lately. Changing functions without informing the users. Starting to restrict the views per days and than backing off without notification and so on. Furthermore it is good to have a backup channel in case they change the terms of use.
Of course I will stay on twitter as long as possible and tweet there but I will use my Telegram Channel as main channel now. Therefore I will post sometimes exclusive content there.

Summer break 2023

As every year it is time for our "summer break". We will be back on the 14th of September with a new blogentry and hopefully a lot of new ideas what to write.

As you probably noticed the last couple of weeks we published new blogentries irregularly. This is due our full private and work schedule.

But don't be sad, during that time we are still working on new blogentries and we will be back soon! In the meantime you can still browse through over 240 blogentries we wrote or enjoy Master D´s website . 

Have a great summer!

The useful slave tongue

In my opinion the slave tongue is on the of most useful parts of a slave body. Many would probably say that it is the slavehole or slavedick, but the slave tongue is more important.

With the tongue a slave can lick and worship the Master for hours. Licking boots, feet, Mastercock etc. Licking the hand of the Sir like a submissive dog. The licking of a slave is not only useful as it cleans the boots or provides relaxation but also shows a form of connection and communication without using words.

The joy of long term serving

I am already owned more than 10 years by my Master and I can't stress the fact enough how much I enjoy this form of long term serving. Some people I know prefer different BDSM dates with different people, or they especially enjoy it when they can do something for the first time with a person, for example keeping somone chaste for the first time etc.

Being impressed by the training I receive by my Master

I consider myself as a natural born submissive slave. After more than 10 years of service to my Master I have to say I am really impressed by how my Master trained me and how He made things reality I didn't know where possible at all. I am really grateful how my Master trains me and how far He has brought me. He managed to deepen my natural submissive side over the years. 

Being more into BDSM than being gay

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Discovering new kinks

I am into BDSM since many years now. It would be wrong to say that I see everything but of course I saw and made already quite some experiances. I know what I want and who I am. Never say never but I know what I am into. I think it will be unlikely that I will discover a „new kink“ out of the blue. 

Gear and toys I still would love to have

We have been living the D/s lifestyle for over a decade. And of course we have accumulated some great toys and gears to play in our lifestyle. Actually for us toys are not that important. The mindset is more important than a fully equipped playroom. You can be very happy with only a few toys - a leash, a collar, a crop, cuffs, some boots etc. Those are the most essentials. Our best and biggest purchase in the last years was the massive cage we got. That was really an upgrade to our place and as I have mentioned is my favorite place in our flat. 

But yes, there are stille some more toys and gears I would enjoy one day with my Master.

Why I do not use the first name of my slave.

I only use the name of my slave if I have to - like adressing him when vanillas are around! I try to avoid to use its name and if I have to use it I always have an inhibitions to do so. I also realize that every time before I use his name I search for an "appropriate" adress - which I can not use when vanilla are around - mostly I wait some seconds if my slave is looking over to me before my brain is searching for a solution and then using its name. I honestly also dislike it when other Doms or slaves use its name. It feels somehow wrong to me. The funny thing - luckely - it feels right and correct to hear its firstname by vanillas.

Serving as human ATM without any findom aspect

I know findom is a delicate matter and so I want to make clear that the this blog entry is not related to findom, althought it involves money. But keep on reading and you will find out more.

As you know Master loves it when slaves make His life easier and relief Him of tasks. It is my goal to become a better slave over time and find more ways to serve. Most of my services are non sexual, like cooking, cleaning etc.

Meeting Master D. and his slave

Shortly before the Covid-era began, I met Master D. online on twitter. I was fascinated by his blog and the lifestyle he displayed about the Master-slave-relationship with his slave and husband. Later on I also got sporadically in contact with his slave there. Over the last three years we chatted on and off and Master D. gave more insights about Master`s life. Especially during that time it was very helpful as I didnt meet lots of people and it was not easy to stay mentally healthy.

The difference between a Master turned husband and a husband turned Master

A Master asked me recenlty online if I could give some insight into what I think is the differecne betwenn a Master turning into a husband and a husband turning ino the Master. And of course I am happy to do so. First of all my husband was my Master first, only years later He also became my husband.

Trust and training - #FindOutFridayBDSM

On a #FindOutFridayBDSM I received the following question which deserves a proper response and therefore its own blogpost:

"How did you get to the point of training in the beginning? Was there lots of contract talk, hard and soft limit discussions, and/or meeting in public places? How did the trust happen? And how long did it take for him to trust you completely?"

The joy of waiting

Waiting is not seen in a positiv light in our society. Many people want everything and they want it now. Some have lost the ability to wait. But especially in the context of BDSM waiting is quite important and can actually bring a lot of joy. 

When and why I adress inferiors as "slaves"

First of all it is important to say, that everyone has a slighly different view on BDSM. Therefore this is my view on when and why I adress inferiors as slaves. I have to admit that I like calling an inferior "slave". The main reason is to actively remind them of their being and their position in the hierarchy and secondly it makes my life much easier because I do not have to remember their names. Furthermore the name of a slave is in my view not really important.

Being a slave brother

I love to be connected with other slaves and submissives. For me there is no jealousy in that, but more of learning from each other and supporting each other. Somehow I feel deeply connected with other submissives. Some of them I have only met online or only met once or twice. But with some I feel connected instantly and consider them as friends. So I was wondering it there are names and labeling of relationships between submissives and slaves. I actually like the the terms "fellow slave" and "slave colleague" that shows that the slaves respect and value each other but probably have not served the same Doms together nor met. 

With some slaves I have an even deeper connection. This connection relates mostly from being in contact for a long time and/or having served the same Dom together, mostly my Master of course. Those slaves I would call "slave brother" or "slave sister". It is like a family you choose. Where you are in contact with each other, you support each other and you care about each other. 

Using other slaves

As you probably already know I see my slave not as real man. Yes, he is male but this does not make him a man. His body, his sexuality belong to me, his pleasure comes from serving Superiors. I demand and trained him to show basic respect towards all Superiors. But of course I decide to whom he has to serve fully. He has no say in it but you probably know that already.

Nevertheless sometimes I use guest slaves. My slave has of course no say in it. It is my decision who and how I use guest slaves. Mostly my slave is present when I meet them and it is his duty to support them. Giving them tips on how to serve me properly. But his duties does not start and end with the meeting of the guest slave. His duties starts before: Cleaning the house, making preparations and afterwards cleaning up and tidying the room again.

How I feel about it when Master plays with other slaves alone. Spoiler alert: I think it is hot!

As you surely know it is very rare that Master and I are meeting other Doms and subs. This is for a variety of reasons. But it es even rarer that one of us meets with another Dom or sub without the other one present. In fact I think I only served another Master two times without my Master being present in the last 10 years. I recently focused on how I feel about when Master plays with other slaves and you might recall that I enjoy it and I am happy for the Master and slave. This time I want to focus a little bit more about how I feel about when Master meets with another slave without having me present. If I am correct hat happened just a couple of times, less than 10, within the last 10 years but 2 of those times were within the last 6 months. 

High protocol in daily life

Since quite some time the high protocol is part of our daily life. In the past the high protocol was in place when doing a slave training or when I was in the mood to use my slave more intense. During the other time normal protocol was in place. Messaging and during the day normal protocol took place. I think in avarage the high potocol took place on weekends and perhaps one evening during weekdays. As part of his slave training and deepening his slave being I decided to intensify the high protocol. My slave always had to pre check-in before coming home. That means he has to inform me when he will arrive at home. I began to use this process to let him know which protocol will be in place when he would arrive. Therefore I started to order him more often into high protocol during evenings on weekdays. Today it is quite normal that my slave comes home, strips naked, takes a shower, puts on his cuffs and mostly a mask and then prepaires to serve me in high protocoll by putting on his slave leather collar (collar indicates high protocol). As long as we do not have other plans for the night.

BDSM and food

BDSM and food? You might be suprised how those two topics can be connected. But food is a huge part of all our life and as in our life BDSM is a huge part I decided on reflecting on different aspects of it.

Effects on using a chastity device on slaves

As you probably know. I lock up the useless slavecock when ever possible. Not for security reasons - because of the psychological effects and the sybolic and meaning behind.

Another visit to Master D. and slave m.

For the first time since summer 2020 I have the honor of visiting Master D. and Slave M. again. As usual this visit was planned several months in advance which always brings with it the nice side effect of more intense communication during the time leading up to the visit. I am not good at keeping in touch virtually but with a fix visit planned for the near future we somehow manage to interact more frequently which helps to slowly increase the excitement and make the visit even more special.

Serving at a BDSM club

There are many ways how a slave can serve, espacialy at a BDSM event. I love to go to a good BDSM "party" where I can meet with like-minded people. Unfortunatly these events are rare. I am not seeking sex. I am seeking for "pure" BDSM and if I am honest a lot of focus on these parties are about sex. That is of course absolutely fine but it is not what I am search for.

Nevertheless it makes me extremly happy when I can attend a BDSM event where I can find like-minded Doms or slaves. This happened at our visit in Prag and as always my well trained slave served me and other doms as I expected!

We met Master Dansan and his slave as well as his BDSM friends at the event. My slave had to eat and drink out of the bowls and was of course not allowed to use furnitures, rules which applies always when possible - more about it here. Furthermore he brought drinks and stand in the queue for the doms we met. That is what a natural slave was born for: serving real men in every aspect. While the Superiors had a nice chat the slave stand in queue for drinks. He actively asked if they want something to drink. Lick boots to show his position as inferior. Furthermore he attentively but passively follows the conversation of the Doms to react if their comes up something where he can serve.